let go of fear 2Each week when I write an article for one of my blogs, I try to write these articles from a position of substance and reality. I have learned that if I share with other people what I am currently learning myself, it will make a far greater impact on them. In general, I think it is true that we are able to help others when we share with them from the real-life experiences that we are currently going through or have personally faced in our own life. In other words – experience will always trump theory, in my opinion.

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Why Leaders FailI have never met a CEO or pastor who set out to destroy his or her impact and influence … but it happens – every single day. Scandals. Frauds. Moral failures.

As a Christian coach, you are uniquely positioned to help leaders and executives identify their weaknesses and make proactive changes in order to avoid these pitfalls. Sometimes, this will require saying hard things. Confronting. Challenging. Gently pointing out what needs to change.

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So, you’ve found yourself in a rut. It could be your painful work routine, or perhaps your tedious relationship. It might even be going out and doing the same things every day, things that used to be fun that you now find simply boring. You may not know why it happened to you, or even when you slipped into it. Instinctively though, you know that you’re in a place that you don’t really want to be – the rut.

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Christian leadership is faced with an incredible opportunity to help connect people with their purpose. The deep yearning each individual has to know why they exist and why they are here coupled with a life experience that offers more questions than answers leaves a formidable emptiness. Many have tried to find their purpose within their career only to find that pouring hours into the organization has left them missing the mark. In fact, a recent survey revealed that 60% of Americans hate their job, 30% tolerate it, and 10% actually enjoy their work. It’s evident that very few find a sense of purpose in their career where they spend the majority of their time. Unfortunately, the statistics for family and marriage satisfaction are even more alarming.

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The winter is nearly gone in South Africa, the summer is on our doorsteps and this is a good time to tune up communication for a great season of marriage!  Some basic coaching skills and process can be helpful.  What?  You don’t need a tune-up?  OK, then please skip to the comments section and share a few tips with the rest of us.  But if you’’re open to a couple of reminders, keep reading.

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What does success look like for Christian coaches?

Every one holds their collective breath as the swimmers make the final turn.  As onlookers try to divine which swimmer will win, each athlete stretches to touch the wall just ahead of the closest competitor.  Incredibly, years of training come down to distances of less than a hand’s length and times measured in fractions of a fraction of a second.  Ah yes, it’s once again time for the Summer Olympics.

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What will it take for this couple to do what is needed to help their marriage!?  How much pain do they have to be in to do the work of reconciliation?!”

Those are the questions we sometimes ask ourselves over and over again. One challenge of being marriage coaches who work with struggling couples is that it is easy to become discouraged when people in pain make only small changes – or none at all. Many couples come to us begging for help to make the pain go away, to give them tools for communication and conflict resolution, and to offer them hope. They say that they want all of this at ‘10’ on a 1-10 scale. But, when it comes down to doing the hard, hard work of reconciliation many times that ‘10’ becomes a ‘6’ then a ‘4’ and even sometimes a ‘2’. What do we do to not be discouraged and hopeless ourselves when this happens?

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What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and Should a Christian Use it?

These questions come across my desk or are raised in a telephone conversation almost daily. I would like to shine some light on this topic and open a conversation and exploration about it with you.  In doing so I think it is important to define what is NLP, explore it’s origins, and applications.

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